This is the title of my book y'all. It has been begging for years to come out and I can't hold it in any longer. Read my intro and then join my waitlist.
This book is for you if you’re stuck in, getting out of, or free from an unhealthy relationship. Or if you are ready to do what it takes to have a healthy relationship. I wish someone had sat me down and told me all of these truths when I was stuck and going through separation.
For the sake of simplicity, but not to oversimplify or limit the dynamics of relationships of this type, I will use the structure of the woman being the empath and the man being the narcissist. Of course, it can be reversed or same sex. So if this dynamic applies to you, please know that it is NOT limited to the gender I’m presenting.
Also, you might think that you need to know for sure if you’re with a narcissist. That word gets tossed around a lot and the truth is, it really doesn’t matter. If you feel anxious most of...
How did we ever get sold on the idea that we could always have good days and always have good relationships and always be clear headed and say and do all the right things? And why do we make ourselves wrong for feeling down or for saying the wrong thing? How did we come to accept the standard of perfection in all things? What happened to our margin for error?
Don't we know that we need the darkness to have the light? That polarity and contrast create passion? We spend time judging ourselves and others. I have an updated attitude about the dark side. Instead of expecting it to be gone and spending my energy trying to prevent its presence and then feeling like I failed, now I simply acknowledge it and go one step further. I accept its presence because I know that it will pass and really good stuff like clarity, inspiration, wisdom, and creativity are on the other side. I forgive myself for not being "perfect". I once heard that perfection is the lowest standard. I love that.