Healing Heartbreak

What does it mean to have a broken heart? It hurts to breathe. I don't know about you but it goes in cycles between anger, sadness, confusion, and peace. Especially when there's infidelity or any kind of abuse involved.

Maybe you know logically that you did the right thing by removing yourself from an unhealthy relationship but your heart hasn't gotten the message. How do you sit with the hurt and the longing to reconnect? And then comes the internal conversation: What's wrong with me? Am I ever gonna get this right? Did I make a mistake? Maybe I should've tried harder. Maybe he/she will change. I should give him/her another chance, etc.

You consider yourself an intelligent person who is good at sensing someone's vibes and yet you find yourself acting like a crazy weak person and being wrong about someone's intentions. It just doesn't line up. I'm here to help you make sense of all of the conflicting messages.

You have 2 variables here. You and the person in the relationship. Pretty...

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The Elephant in the Room

WHY WHY WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM?????

All we hear about the virus is, "Don't get exposed. Wash your hands. Stay home. Wear a mask. Wear gloves. Stay safe.....etc."

WHY is NO ONE telling us to GET OUR BODIES AND MINDS HEALTHY??? I just don't get it.

We're not talking about our sugar, alcohol, and nicotine addiction. Funny how fast food, liquor stores, and tobacco stores never closed but gyms, spas, and churches did.

What about the huge rise in domestic violence, child abuse, depression, anxiety, and suicide? What about QUALITY OF LIFE??

What about the people WHO ARE DYING because the ECONOMY IS TANKING?? What percentage is that?

WHY ISN'T THIS STUFF MAKING HEADLINES??

We have so many people living in daily fear of dying from the corona virus when we have a 3.4% chance of that happening! I don't get it!

Why aren't we talking about how this affects children? Children need touch and connection. They're learning that touching and interacting are bad for you....

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The Object of my Obsession

Have you ever been obsessed with something that you knew was no good for you? It consumed most of your thoughts. You wanted it from the deepest parts of yourself. You couldn't rationalize your desire or talk yourself out of it. You felt weak because you didn't have control over your desires. You beat yourself up for not being stronger. Yeah, me either.

Let's dig deep down underneath this to unlock the grip. You know the grip right? That visceral feeling of longing, like a moth to a flame, so compelling and unhealthy and so satisfying. This sounds a lot like addiction. When your obsession is an unhealthy vehicle for attaining what you want, it is exactly the same as an addiction. So how do we crack the code, break the cycle, free ourselves from the grip?

There are many ways to do this but I'll give you a simple 3 step resource.

1. First of all, we need to recognize the internal conflict. The body gives you cues. Trapped energy shows up in the body. Do you have a constricted feeling...

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